I recently decided to do a brief talk on how to "Get Happy." The weeks prior to the talk it seemed a natural thing to talk about, but as the day grew closer I realized I wasn't really in a "happy" place, so I questioned even staying on topic. But as life often is....this was to be a learning experience.
Upon beginning my research I discovered people approach happiness generally in two different ways. They either try to discard and escape the present and fake being happy or they try to heal to be happy. In order to be truly happy, an emotion that comes from deep within, we must discover what takes us to that moment of happiness. What triggers that pure joy that overcomes your soul?! To find this out we must first find out why we are sad or angry. Yes you read that right.....to find out why we are happy it is often necessary to find out why we are sad. Our life is Yin and Yang, happiness and sadness, up and down, life and death. To experience the "bright" parts of life it is vital and necessary to experience the "dark." After all how do we know what happiness is without sadness? How do we know the day without the night? How do we know heat without cold?How do we know health without sickness? .....The answers to all of these questions is we don't. There is no possible way to experience or understand something without experiencing its opposite. And it doesn't mean that you personally experience everything sometimes we can learn from others exeriences-but you have to be open. So what do we do with the moments of sadness? The moments of anger and resentment? WE HONOR THEM! It is your duty and responsibility to find out why you feel, what the world refers to as, the negative emotions. Behind every emotion is usually an underlying trigger or reason you feel the way you do. It could be something from your childhood, from last year or yesterday that brings you to the feelings you have regarding a certain thing, a certain person or even why you interpret a certain smell the way you do. The process of discovering why you feel the way you do is different for everyone. Some people meditate, some people seek the help of a professional counselor or spiritual leader and some people may even write about the past to discover the truth of today. Uncovering past emotional ties can be hard, upsetting and scary, but I can promise you this-when you take the time to know yourself and your soul you will live a better tomorrow. A happier and more intelligent tomorrow. Once you have discovered why you feel anger and sadness then the journey to happiness begins. You can let go of the past, of the anger or grief and learn how to be happy. You can then learn to recreate an energy from your heart and soul that is seen not only by yourself but by others. But there's a catch...I can tell you how to become happy until I'm blue in the face. I can walk you through it step by step in a variety of ways, but until you open up your heart and soul to not only the world but to your own mind and allow the transformations...IT WILL NOT HAPPEN! With all this being said about finding happiness be aware of this->Moments of sadness, anger and unhappiness are a part of life. They are natural processes which we must go through to grow, to appreciate life and to be human. What should change is how we experience and deal with these emotions. Do not let anger and sadness overcome your day, your week or your life. Learn to grow from sadness. Learn to appreciate and honor sadness. Learn to appreciate sadness but not let it control you. Just like anything else emotions are not YOU. Happiness is an enhancement to your life....it is not your life...it does not define you nor does it define your days. YOU define your days. YOU control YOUR life and YOUR MIND. You have power within you to do whatever you wish or desire. YOU have the power to walk across the street, the power to be happy to be sad, the power to be YOUR TRUE SELF. Find your power. Find yourself. Find your happiness. Write the word power across your hand or hands for the next week. Look at it often and literally feel your own power. Be gracious, be kind, be loving, be appreciative, learn, love and grow.........
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